IMG_3507Hey so its been AWHILE!

This is not a typical blogpost, this is like a diary entry, life update. If this sort of thing is not your cup of tea I suggest waiting till next weeks post to read further!

Last time we talked I had a grown-up JOB like, I had a cubical!  Then BOOM my job came to a close, due to Anheuser-Busch ENDING my program! It definitely was a shock at first. Let me tell you, I was rrreeaallll comfortable at my job, I had that s-word down pat, down to a science, I also had a lot of freedom, and a lot of creativity. I was so fortunate to work for a company that almost ALWAYS said YES to my crazy idea’s! I learned so so much having a big girl job,

I learned how important follow through is, sometimes you just have to do what needs to be done and its on YOU to figure it out.

I learned how to pull things off, I guess you could call that resourcefulness.

Not to take things so personal, people aren’t always going to LOVE you, or what you have to say. AND THATS OKAY!

Also people aren’t always going to do what they say, (heres where your follow through skills come in handy)

You are going to have bad work days no matter how great you are, they are inevitable don’t let them crumble you.

I also learned that I am far more capable then I ever thought possible.

My wholesaler kept me on WELL after the program ended, and I cannot say enough about how positive my experience has been working for them over the past 3 years. I always knew this wasn’t my FOREVER job, I’ve ALWAYS had my side hustles, and ultimate goals; I just didn’t know this one had an expiration date, that was different than the one in my head. I took it A LOT harder then I ever thought I would. I was SO emotional in my last weeks knowing all the people I wouldn’t get to see every week, and things that were about to change so drastically for me. Saying goodbye over and over to all my accounts and coworkers, it was truly the end of an era. Life as I knew it, my whole day to day POOF, GONE, just like that. I know this sound ssssoooo dramatic when I’m writing it out like this, but for me it was. Don’t get me wrong I also had this feeling of excitement and new opportunity is around the corner vibe too, but the loss of people in my life was very big and hard to out weigh. As a people lover myself, I honestly have struggled a little in my head.FullSizeRender 4

With that being said I knew it was time to pull it together and figure it out. I decided to take my skills and knowledge, and open my own company! I’m happy to announce, Sunshine Consulting & Events as a full service events, marketing, and media company! EEEEKKKK (let the knee shaking ensue) I’m nervous about this only in the way of starting a new chapter, I am COMPLETELY CONFIDENT in my services and skills, maybe too confident haha, JK! Really I’ve been in this industry for 10 years! I am still going to keep up with my blogging and I REALLY REALLY want to make videos, I plan of making my youtube channel a thing this year too! Working for myself has ALWAYS BEEN my end goal and dream, I think this whole thing was the necessary push I needed!

Sometimes you just have to figure it out, and things are usually not on your time, or exactly how you thought they would look like, or be. I will say I’m proud of myself, I’ve risen to the occasion and I’m ready for it.

This has taken a lot to admit, and it was surprisingly not easy to be so open about, which is strange for me, Im usually an open book. The reason I haven’t posted is because it was hard to say and admit that its really over and done. Thats so absolute, and I’m sentimental lol Like I’ve gotten happy tears and sad tears in my eyes while writing this. hahaha WOW get it together Torri. Growing up so strange and weird.

Anyways I hope your Valentines day was great! Mine was pretty good! I’m actually headed out for a 30a girls weekend trip with Matts mom tomorrow for her BIRTHDAY!!! I’m stoked! Up late doing laundry like the procrastinator I am. Next post will be like a REAL blog post I have sssooo much to post about. For some reason I have been out of town A LOT! Tons of travel content coming your way, starting next week!!!

OKAY LOVE YOU MISS YOU SORRY ITS BEEN SO LONG!IMG_3477

IMG_2520Okay so Its been awhile, and I have very good reasons, but honestly there is no excuse! I’m sorry! Basically, Im going through a HUGE, knee shaking, scary, adult transition! I’ll speak more when I can! For now, MERRY FREAKIN CHRISTMAS!!!!!! I have my Christmas music on, and I am ready to SPREAD THE CHRISTMAS SPIRIT ALL OVERRRR THIS BIOTCH!!!!

I obviously LOVE the holidays and getting festive, but this year, due to many personal things, I’ve had a hard time jumping into the spirit. Which made my already last minute Christmas shopping tendencies even worse! Don’t fret, I have pulled through, and have compiled a list of 10 sure fire Christmas gifts! Not only will everyone love these , but they will still arrive before Christmas!!! IMG_3007

  1. What do you MEME? ($30.00) This trendy game is so so so so so funny and so much funnnn!!! Its like Cards Against Humanity but with pictures instead of a fill-in-the-blank situation! Seriously this game is perfect for couples too, because its something BOTH people can enjoy together! Thats what you call a win-win, thats what you call two birds with one stone, hahahah need I go on? For real though, its a crowd pleaser!!!! CLICK HERE to order!FullSizeRender 5
  2. Instagramable Slippers! ($30.00-$14.99) Who doesn’t want some super cute fuzzy slippers! These are one of those gifts that you wouldn’t buy yourself but you want! The are cozy, cute, and festive! I have two pairs of Muk Luks that I got last year for Christmas and I LIVE in them!!!!! TBH, I once ventured to CVS in them to grab myself some Nutella in them and was only a little embarrassed because they were so cute lollll I’m going to link a few pairs, that I love!(I have these >) HERE, HERE, HERE and HERE!

     

  3. Girl Gang Sweaters for your Girl Gang!!! ($30.00) First of all I LOVE SHIPWRECK LIMITED! They have the CUTEST/TRENDIEST, and the classic staples you NEED in your life! Now I unfortunately for you scooped up the last of the Heather Grey sweaters, for my Girl Gang, but they still have the Navy up for grabs! When I laid my eyes on them I KNEW they would be the PERFECT Christmas presents for some of my BIFFS! Also so funny but the HOTTIE in these pictures is actually my good friend Katie!!!!! hehe how perfect is that!!!!!!! CLICK HERE FOR THE SWEATER!FullSizeRender 6FullSizeRender 8FullSizeRender 7
  4. Cute Keyboard Cover. ($12.00-$8.00) Again this falls under the category, things you want for yourself, but never buy! This is perfect for someone who works from there computer a lot! Also they will totally think of you every time they get on the computer haha! Its really a gift of aesthetics, and those are the best kind, because whats better than a good aesthetic!!!!!! Click HERE and HERE for some cute options!FullSizeRender 10FullSizeRender 11FullSizeRender 13FullSizeRender 9
  5. Wireless Headphones! Okay so this is perfect for again is someone works on the computer a lot, especially from home! I saw these on Urban Outfitters and KNEW someone who would appreciate these while they work! I would recommend pairing these with a cute Keyboard cover, and BOMB you have the perfect gift completed! I mean they are sssooo cute AND on sale!!! Click HERE for the headphones!FullSizeRender 12FullSizeRender 14
  6. Glossier: Bombdotcom Trio! ($30.00) If you haven’t heard of Glossier, you are welcome! My BFF Tori introduced me, and no, I am not speaking in the third person! My BIFF’s and I are extra cute and have the same name! Anyway, not only are Glossier’s products ADORABLE, from the packaging to the media, they are phenomenal!!!! A Trio set is literally the perfect gift that your BFF will LOVE! 3 Flavors I recommend, Mint, Rose, Coconut! Try Glossier! I guarantee you will fall in love!!!! CLICK HERE FOR THE TRIO!!FullSizeRender 16FullSizeRender 17FullSizeRender 15
  7. Lush Bath Bombs: ($9.00-$5.00) AHHH LUSSSHHH talk about a game changer brand!!!!! My eyes LIGHT UP whenever I see anything Lush! In case you didn’t know, Lush is a handmade cosmetic brand that uses the best, freshest ingredients, and they are MAGICALLLL!!! The Bathbombs make PERFECT GIFTS! They are inexpensive, and are the perfect finishing touch to any gift. These really bring the WOW factor!!!FullSizeRender 25
  8. Kylie Lip Kit! ($29.00) I know her RIDICULOUSLY priced brushes are getting a bad wrap, (for good reason) but, what girl that you know, hasn’t wanted to at least TRY a Kylie Lip Kit??? Probably few are far between! This is why these make the perfect gifts, and are a sure crowd pleaser!! Good quality, good packing, and the cool factor! CLICK HERE FOR THE LIP KITS!FullSizeRender 27
  9. Essential Oil Difuser: ($20.00) This is a gift that just keeps on giving! I’ve heard nothing but great things about these babies! Your whole house, or room, will smell beautiful, the air will be cleaner, and its something useful, and fun because you can sort of play around with it! This is a gift that will probably be used often, if the person is into this sort of thing! CLICK HERE FOR THE OIL DIFUSER FullSizeRender 29
  10. Air Purifier: ($53.00) These vary in price, but I found a good one! For your holistic friend, we all have at least one, hey maybe YOU are that friend! hahah! Honestly these are just good for everyone! Especially if you live in an apartment! These eliminate allergies and do so much more for you! This is the ultimate gift that keeps on giving! I can think of a few people off the top of my head who would LOVE this! CLICK HERE FOR THE AIR PURIFIERFullSizeRender 30FullSizeRender 31      Okay, from board games, to makeup, to air purifiers, I think I got you covered this year!!! I have had to tell all my friends to not read this because there gifts are all up over this page!!!!!!! I’m finally excited about Christmas! Tomorrow Matt and I have a whole Christmas-y day planned! Christmas music, Christmas cookies, gingerbread houses, and Christmas movies are all on the agenda!!! What do you do, that puts you in the Christmas spirit? I cant wait to watch Elf and The Grinch tomorrow! Those are our FAVORITE Christmas movies!!!!!!! OHH AND LISTEN TO THE GREATEST CHRISTMAS ALBUM OF ALL TIME! NSYNC Christmas!!!  Okay I LOVE YOU BYYYYEEE

“MERRY CHRISTMAS, MERRY CHRISTMAS, AND HAPPY HOLIDAYS”IMG_3006 3

IMG_2626Have you ever stumbled across something, and wanted everyone to know about it? I am one of those people, who obnoxiously tells everyone when they have found a good thing! These things I seriously cannot keep to myself any longer!!! So here we go 5 things you NEED in your life right now!!!

 

IMG_8032Milk Cooling Water Stick: This thing is sssoooo coollll lol LITERALLY! Well, and figuratively! This is the BEST wake me up and I look forward to it every morning. You apply the stick to your eyelids, it deputes soothes and cools. I keep my stick in the fridge to grab and apply each morning. This leaves me with the coolest sensation and THE ONLY way to wake up in the morning!!

CLICK HERE FOR THE MILK COOLING WATER STICK

(I have pictured here the mini stick, but they make a normal size too)IMG_8044

Cream Bronzer: Talk about a game changer!!!! I have always used just powder when it comes to bronzer! You know it was my comfort zone, it was nice, I lived there for a long time. As I  watched while the rest of the world applied what looks to me like face paint, and then blended themselves into Kardashians,  I still sat there applying my powder, dreaming of achieving that Kardashian level contour!!!! I finally made the switch, I’ve been using a bronzing stick by the brand MILK and let me tell you!!!! THERE IS NNNOOOO LOOKING BACK! It blends sssooo much better, it looks 9374965498 times more natural!!! Kim who? Kylie who? hahahahahahah jk jk BUT SERIOUSLY GAME CHANGERRRRR! (The one I’m using is by MILK)

CLICK HERE FOR THE MILK CREME BRONZER

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IMG_2631IMG_2630Taylor Swifts new CD: OMG OMG OMG OMG SHE DID IT AGAIN!!!!!!!!! Honestly my hopes for this album were LOW! I did not love “Look What You Made Me Do”, to be honest I HATED it at first, and then it slowly grew on me. Definitely didn’t love “Gorgeous” either. I assumed this was the end of my Taylor Swift era, BUT THEN, I decided to grab the CD magazine, at Target one night, when I was also grabbing everything else in the world that I didn’t need! And GUUUYYYSSS!!!!!! It’s so so so GGOOODDD!!! Like I have been carrying this CD around with me everywhere I go lolllll! So many bangers! Go get it! And, I really really love the magazine its so pretty, and so much attention to detail, such a cool idea! I have to mention “Don’t Blame Me” IS THE BEST SONG ON THE ALBUM!!! REPEATREPEATREPEAT!!!!!!!!! “Getaway Car” also on REPEAT!!!! Like I said though, so many good songs!!!!IMG_2632IMG_2634

MoviePass App: Personally I am a HUGE movie person, I probably go to the movies more than anyone I know. MoviePass was made for people like me! You pay $10 a month and get to see 1 movie a day, everyday, if you want!! Thats right you could go see a movie in the movie theater EVERY SINGLE DAY, for $10 a month!!!!!!!!! You download the app hook your card info up, they send you a card in the mail; it looks similar to a debt card, and thats what you use. This is the best thing that has happened to me in foreverrrr!!IMG_2673IMG_2676.JPG

IMG_2677The Morning Breath: This is the media you never knew you needed in your life, and it is EVERYTHINGGGG!!!!!! If you have an Instagram chances are you follow  THE FUNNIEST ACCOUNT @girlwithnojob Claudia Ostry, co-host of TMB, is the girl behind Girl with no job! Claudia, and her adorably perfect, small, frail, red headed, haven’t had a carb in 3 years, sister Jackie O host TMB Monday-Friday every morning at 10am cst, and it is PURE GOLD. I literally laugh out loud, there are times I have had TEARS in my eyes and it puts me in the BEST mood the whole day!!! They are both hystericalllll the chemistry of the sisters (or should I say STEENS) is untouchable. They cover everything from celebrity gossip, to global hard hitting new stories, with “The fast five stories you need to hear before you wakeup and smell your morning breath” I don’t even watch a lot of the shows they talk about but it doesn’t matter to me because whatever comes out of there mouth makes me laugh to my core!!!! The Morning Breath or “The most prestigious morning show” as we “Breathers” (and anyone with ears says) is available for consumption via Facebook live, podcast, Instagram live, or youtube! FB Live is my favorite way to consume, so I can really get the full effect! Ever since TMB came into my life the tone of my days has been lighter, and just better! PLEASE do yourself a favor, brighten your day, and become a Breather!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!IMG_2679IMG_2678FullSizeRender

Okay Okay Okay!!!! Now that I have got all that off my chest and out into the universe I feel ssssoooo much better!!! Please try 1 some or all of these things, they will make you happier person I promise!!!!!! Let me know is there is something I NEED to know about in the comments below!!!!!!! Okay Happy Thanksgiving, hope this work week flys by and you drink all the wine GOBBLE GOBBLE! LOVE YOU BBYYYYEEE!!!!!!!!!!!!

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IMG_2534(photo by Brooke Frausto INSTA)

I don’t know about y’all but I am ALWAYS on the hunt for the new jam! Also its like once I find one who isn’t well known I feel like I want to shout it from the roof tops, let everyone know, and spread all the feels from the music; and make everyone happy about finding this new person too!!!! Here are some people that I am OBSESSED with so naturally I HAVE to share with you!!!!!

These power house of bad biotches listed below will BLOW YOU AWAY!!! So much talent, and so freaking ccccoooollll! They are like the new age of cool girls! What I love is that all of there voices are unique I’ve never heard anything like them. Without further ado here are the new bad biotches of music!

IMG_2595 Sigrid(photo credit) Sigrid is so so so cool. Her voice goes way beyond her years, it feels like she is singing from the depths of her soul. She is one of the most authentic singers I have ever heard. With her unconventionally beautiful voice, and look, she is a game changer! Her sound is totally unique to her and her lyrics are totally relatable, as in I feel like homegirl knows my life, and wrote songs about it!!!! hahaha (my good friend Tracy told me about her thanks Tracy!!!!!!)

BEST SONGS: Don’t Kill My Vibe, Dynamite, Plot Twist, Fake Friends, Strangers

(Also the acoustic versions are literally the best thing in the whole woorrllddd)

IMG_2602IMG_2598                                                                                                                                                             Billie Eilish: (photo credit) Billie is an genius and she is so so young!! Also so so so beautiful if you watch any of her interviews its so easy to fall in love with her. Have you ever been around someone, and you are just like wow that person knows exactly who she is and exactly what she wants and there is no apologizing for it. Its inspiring, and sort of takes your breath away. In the non cliche way. You know, she is so young but its like this is her, even if its just for now, she is exactly sure. That makes me feel so comfortable, that someone somewhere is so sure of something haha and its AMAZING!

BEST SONGS: Ocean Eyes, Watch, Belly Ache, CopyCat, Six Feet Under, Bored <In that order!

OMGOMGOMG I JUST SPILLED RED WINE ALL OVER EVERYTHING!!!!!!!!! LOLLLLLL MY FRIEND AND I FRANTICALLY CLEANED IT FROM THE COUCH AND ITS HER AND HER BF’S BRAND NEW COUCH OMG IM THE WORST!!!!!!!! LOLLLLL

IMG_2609Maggie Rogers: (photo credit) Ive honestly never heard anything like her in my life. She’s so fun and relaxing at the same time. Her sound is easy listening meets soul, sort of modern alternative folk, with R&B vibes, and a splash of pop. She has such an interesting story, traditionally a banjo player growing up in rural Maryland, she somehow found herself studying at music at NYU, coincidently at NYU she stopped making music completely for a few years, finally while studying abroad in France rekindled her love for making music, and thank god she did because her music is out of control AMAZING and a gift to our ears! You may have heard of Maggie from that viral video, where Pharrell came to NYU and was brought to tears by her music. Its a pretty inspirational video, I’ll drop a link below. Maggie is an original, and a breath of fresh air to the music game, AND TRUST ME needs a spot on your playlist!!!

Pharrell & Maggie NYU 

BEST SONGS: Alaska, On + Off, Dog Years, Better, Split Stones

IMG_2610Muna: (photo credit) This girl group is upbeat and heart touching at once. There lyrics are really relatable and fun at the same time. It hurts so good is a phrase I would use to describe Muna. The vibe is Girly, alternative pop, with a hint of the 80’s! I love getting ready to go out listening to there music. Like all the artist I have mentioned they really have a unique voice and sound. This is the kind of music you want to turn your hair brush into a microphone for, while you sing a long, and dance on the couch too. Your playlist NEEDS Muna!

BEST SONGS: Loud Speaker, Winter Break, So SpecialI Know A Place, Crying on the Bathroom Floor,

IMG_4962IMG_4317IMG_6138IMG_6184-2Skye Dumont: (photos by me) This girl is just as gorgeous on the inside, as she is on the out!!! Skye and I quickly became best friends in real life, and we met on Instagram!!!! She is one of the best singers I have ever heard in my entire life!!! Her voice will blow you away!!! As a classically trained opera singer, (Manhattan School of Music) she can play like ANY instrument. Her pop and opera covers are out of this world, and I want the whole world to know how awesome she is!!!! I’m inspired by her talent, kindness, faith, heart, and the friend that she is. Skyes voice is the kind that leaves you with chills, so get ready for the goose bumps!!

BEST SONGS: Rise Up, We Don’t Talk Anymore, White IversonDon’t Dream its Over, In The Name of Love, Habanera, AND ANY OF THEM ON HER YOUTUBE CHANNEL!!!!! Also follow her on INSTA

IMG_1905So now we are at the end of this musical journey! I hope you enjoyed!!! Just so you know it took me 9027349238 mins to link all the songs because as I pulled each one up I HAD to listen to the whole song all the way through!!! If you guys have any good music suggestions comment down below, let me know! Also tell me who your favorite, that I mentioned is. Okay I love you bbyyyee!!!!

IMG_1910IMG_1561People always describe your 20’s as the best years of your life, which is true at first. Lets dive in and dissect these pivotal years real quick.

20-22 

Its still cute to beinge  drink 5 nights out of the week and your just getting out of the bumping and grinding at the club stage.

22-25

You know just throwing things at the wall seeing what sticks, if anything even sticks.

26-30

OMG OMG MAKE IT STOP!! Make all the big decisions find your career NOW like NOW you do not have time to throw stuff at the wall anymore, or you will be a poor loser.  AAHHHH!!!!!!

You know around 26-30ish is usually when the depression starts. Its like WHAM BAM MAKE ALL THE LIFE DECISIONS. Its the time  people stop telling you, oh you’re young you have plenty of time. People start saying “Ohhh” when you tell them your age. (lollll Its funny but its not) It just feels so isolating, because you are no longer part of a mass. You aren’t in school anymore, you aren’t a part of the mom club yet so you don’t belong there. All your friends have either moved or you’ve lost touch. I mean you still talk on the phone, but everyone has these careers and new lives in places far away, and lets just say it. You are no longer a part of there everyday. It stings, and if the loneliness goes on for longer it aches, and after much longer it becomes a deep ringing in your soul, that you can hear and feel. after that you get a numbness, everything is dull colors, things you once loved, your feelings. Then the questions start.

Who am I? You used to know. and now things have lost there significants. It almost feels as nothing matters anymore, in fact you don’t matter anymore. Its like every morning you open your eyes with a stack of encyclopedias on your chest and have to force yourself out of bed and sometimes the weight is just to heavy;  you can barley breath. Some days you don’t have a choice, so you must force yourself up.  As the day goes on you, feel like you are in a deep dark hole under ground, with only your head sticking out, and you are barley hanging on by your finger tips and your feet are flailing around kicking the darkness and your finger tips are clinching the earth for dear life because you are about to slip in the hole of darkness. And some days you do slip, and all you can feel is the darkness; some days you get a leg out. But every morning you wake up with the encyclopedias and its hard to breath, and you are in the dark hole and your finger tips hurt.

Its a constant battle. How are we supposed to make sense of everything thats ever happened in our lives? How come no one talks about this chunk of life where you are supposed to have the basic answers to the questions that the girl who went to the same high school as you asks in the dark corner of the dive bar, in town, when everyone is home for the holidays. How come the sense of failing is so heightened. How come you don’t have the kind of friends anymore that can be at your house in 10 minutes, at the drop of a hat. Why do you feel the pressure to change yourself completely but feel guilty for leaving your old self behind too. Why is it so hard to connect. It used to be so easy. What do you want to do, who do you want to be? It seems like everyone else knows already.

So you pick something, or an opportunity falls in your lap, and you’re living your life. You are tired all the time, and stressed, pretty soon you are just going through the motions. Everyday feels the same. You are treading water, you are lonely, and you feel so guilty. What do you have to complain about? So many people have it so much worse, and that only makes you feel even more pitiful, an pathetic.

Coming from me this probably seems a little surprising, people always think I’m so positive and happy, which at the core of my soul I am. As I’ve had these open conversations, a lot of people who I would have never guessed feel this way too. Luckily I have been ale to pull myself out of these times that have popped up in my life. I write this to start an conversation, and hopefully to let others know you are not alone! It gets better and there is light after darkness. (Here are a few things that have helped me, this has been a long process and all easy said then done.)

  • BE STILL– Part of growing up is being your own best friend, that means being a good friend to yourself. Get to know yourself. Sometimes you need to go through these motions and feel all the things you’ve been trying to push off. Its best to feel what you’re feeling journal it and move on. And in the words of Chris Crocker don’t forget to “TREAT YO SELF”
  • FIND A NEW OUTLET/HOBBY/PASSION AND POUR YOURSELF INTO IT– You know for me its this blog, and photography and video editing. It doesn’t even have to be something you are passionate about necessarily but something you have an interest in. Also don’t give me any excuses. If you can’t afford it get resourceful, reach out to someone who could help you out!
  • FIND A TRIBE– This is the most important in my opinion, but also the most difficult. It takes time, trial and error, and patients. Once you have found a tribe of people who have your best interest, who love and support you, it can be world changing. (I’m going to be doing a post about adult friendships super soon) the internet can be super helpful in this department.IMG_1290bikeride

If you have been feeling this way please do not hesitate to reach out, I will always be an ear for those who need it. I hope this starts a conversation of something that seems so taboo. Thank you guys for letting me be vulnerable with you, and for allowing me to show a different side of the sunshine I try and radiate everyday. The next post will not so dark I promise. Remember it does get better and I love you!!!!